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BiCon lets us down again. Part 2

 

Image of a member of the Philippine Bisexual Group BiSides

BiCon Racism Part 2:

Introduction by Jacq
Since posting our previous entry, one of the authors, and Bi’s of Colour as a whole have received threats. If this is what happens when we critique a white bisexual institution, and speak openly about our experiences, then white bisexual people haven’t learned a thing.

By Nila K

One last thing about this latest bout of violent BiCon racism.

I can fight it. we all can. if you didn’t break us in ten years, and by God you tried, then you’re not gonna break us now. ANd that includes those of you who get it now.

Do you think that the ignorance of those we thought were community was less devastating than the outright hate? You’re wrong.  Dr King wrote about this in 1963.

thing is, RIGHT NOW THIS IS THE ABSOLUTE LAST THING ANY OF US NEED.

We’re finding our places in the Uprising. We’re navigating COVID and extra police powers. We’re dealing with Toryhell. whatever the latest posh yt ‘feminist’ transphobia is . The DWP. The Home Office. etc. etc.

D’ya not think we’ve got enough to get on with?

and yet, you think now is the ideal time to push us through this tedious racist violent bullshit again.

You’re gonna realise one day, how patient we all were.

But probably only after I stop being patient. And tell it like it is. And set you all on fire. I’m holding my Firey Mother back right now. I’m not gonna do it for long.

And if this sounds like a threat? It should.

Taking a lot of inspiration from Brother Malcolm right now. As I have since I was 14.

“You can’t separate peace from freedom because no one can be at peace unless he has his freedom.

Be peaceful, be courteous, obey the law, respect everyone; but if someone puts his hand on you, send him to the cemetery.”

and, always from Kwame Toure

” he only made one fallacious assumption: In order for nonviolence to work, your opponent has to have a conscience.”

We gave you a decade to find your conscience. We’re done waiting.

An open letter to White Middle class BiCon attendees

Pic of member of the Philippine bi group, Both Sides, waving a bisexual flag
An open letter to whiteandmiddle class BIcon* attendees.

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Share wildly, and do not tag, but do credit me: Nila K
 
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*and this means if you go regularly now. But it also means if you don’t go any more because you got to stay for long enough to develop your own community, network, friends, lovers. This is a thing that space is magically good at.
 
but only for the Right Sort.


 
As far as I’m aware none of us Bi+/Pan BIPoC have ever suggested you boycott the event.

I mean, speaking personally, a lot of that is how laughably unlikely it is that me suggesting this would lead to anything except more traumatising grief. The idea that those of you who get to access this space and build networks that sustain you during the year might consider stepping back = nonsensical.


 
But most of it with me and many others – is that we don’t want you to be more marginalised than you are. As fellow (but not peer) bi people, we know what it is to be shat on everywhere else.

Thing is, we know what it is to have that compounded by finding the one place that purports to support you… and to have that shit on you in its turn.


 
Coz, despite what multiple people have said about and to me: I didn’t ‘choose’ to stop coming.

I was forced out by virulent and violent classist racism.

It was a choice between my whole social, emotional, professional, activist world … and myself.

And thank fuck that I chose myself.

But no one should have to make that ‘choice’.


 
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And yet we still don’t talk to you about this, and you still keep choose to support a horrifically exclusionary space and calling it community, family and (LOOL) radical. 


 
So, think on that when you deal with us, eh?