Tag Archives: poc

Connections with my skin – A Guest Post

A guest post from N. Gupta

 

I have basically a 99% hard limit re ‘no white people as lovers/play partners/fuckbuddies.

Because I am done showing/sharing my skin and body with people who have no clue what their white skin means.

And no investment in learning *to the level that I need for any encounter to be remotely good/pleaseuable for me*

if im ever gonna have that intimacy again

and tbh it feels unlikely and I go back and forth on how i feel about that

THEN :
i am prirotising black and brown bodies like AND unlike mine:

– trans, gender non conforming, bi, crip, mad, working/mixed class, immigrant bodies, goddess/magic/witchy bodies.

Bodies that contain multitudes and borders.

Bodies that get stopped and searched at borders and on the street.

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Me, reading this back. OH. Right. Yes!

with endless thanks to Rhizome Syndrigast Coelacanth Flourishing whose writing and making and thinking and feeling and re-imagining have been so inmportant to me in last couple years  Love and solidarty to u, mate xx

It’s a 99% limit because someone being BIPoC doesn’t guarantee a connection. or that they won’t be shit to me, or me to them.

I donn’t get to ‘disappear’ into that world coz it’s not magically free of transphobic, biphobic, ableist, classist, sanist, capitalist, racist, liberal, faily etc bulllshit.

And if someone is qtibpoc but is that more comfortable hanging on to instead of challenging that stuff, our skin doesn’t make us kin.

And coz if you wanna be my lover .. you literally have to come round and deali with my messy house. Coz I’m largely housebound these days.

It’s a 99% limit because there are *and always have been* white working class people in my chosen fam. (and some of their families pretty expolicity chose/’adopted me)

We share and connect on many of these lines in ways.

And coz I have rarely found absolutism to be a useful/positive force/ i need pluralism and options.

So yeah

Black Pride and what it means to minorities inside minorities.

I wrote this short piece for Independent Voices 2 days before Black Pride.  I’ve been going to Black Pride for years, and while it isn’t perfect, it’s a hell of a lot better than most other Prides I’ve attended.  I hope you enjoy the article, and please remember…

Don’t read the comments!

– 7th European Transgender Council – Register now

This looks like a great opportunity for European Trans folk of Colour – there will be a day of empowerment just for us before the main event happens.  The conference is also offering full funding for those who need it, and are specifically encouraging of Trans POCs too.

Trans communities (like all LGBT+ communities) are an absolute blizzard, so please contact them and increase the volume of voices from Trans People of Colour!

– 7th European Transgender Council – Register now

Violence against Bi women of colour

Research Consultation

Project
Violence against Bisexual Women: Causes, Experiences and Implications for Service Providers

You are being invited to take part in a research project which explores bisexual women’s experiences of violence. Please take your time to read the following and ask the researcher for further information or if anything is unclear.

Purpose of Project

To explore bisexual women’s experiences of violence.
To understand why bisexual women experience higher rates of violence.
To explore bisexual women’s experiences with service providers and provide resources to providers of services which work with bisexual women.
Am I eligible to take part?

To take part in this part of the study you must:

Be a person of colour i.e. a person who is not white.
Either be a (transgender or cisgender) woman or have experiences of being a woman (this may include transgender people of various genders, please ask if you are unsure).
Identify as bisexual, pansexual or queer (you must be romantically and/or sexually attracted to multiple genders).
What does taking part involve?

This part of the research is a consultation with bi women of colour to allow them to influence the research process. The purpose of this is to ensure that bi women of colour are included throughout this study.

If you agree to take part you will be briefed about the aims of the project and the design of the research. You will be asked for feedback on recruitment of participants, structure of interviews and invited to be part of future consultations.

This can take place in person (the researcher will travel to you) or over skype/telephone.

What are the possible risks of taking part?

You will not directly be asked about your own experiences of violence, however you may find the session emotional and distressing. It may bring back painful or upsetting memories. If this happens, this is completely normal. Please use the contact numbers at the bottom of this page to access support if this happens to you.

Please also feel welcome to contact the researcher who can direct you to appropriate support. It is important to remember that the researcher is not a qualified mental health professional, counsellor or therapist and cannot provide you with professional support.

What are the possible benefits of taking part?

There are no immediate benefits to participants. It is hoped that this work will contribute to understanding of an under-researched subject and group. The research also intends to contribute to creating research led resources for services which work with bisexual women, as well as to the bisexual activist community.

About the researcher

Sally-Anne Beverley is a doctoral researcher at the University of Leeds. She is a white, bisexual, cisgender woman who has experienced intimate partner violence.  

For further information or to take part please contact

Sally-Anne Beverley s.e.beverley@leeds.ac.uk      

For support

For urgent police or medical help 999 or NHS 111

Refuge www.refuge.org.uk 0808 2000 247

Women’s Aid www.womensaid.org.uk ‎ 0808 2000 247

Rape Crisis https://rapecrisis.org.uk 0808 802 9999

Galop (LGBT Domestic Abuse Helpline) http://www.galop.org.uk 0800 999 5428

Forced Marriage Unit Helpline 0207 008 0151

Halo Project (Honour Base Violence, Forced Marriage, FGM Helpline) http://www.haloproject.org.uk/ 01642 683 045

The B’is of Colour History Report has been reprinted as a full-colour A5 booklet, just in time for Pride season!

If you would like some free copies for your stall at Pride or any other event that needs bisexual visibility, email us at bis.of.colour@gmail.com and we can send some out to you.  We have a limited budget, so we can only send a small amount outside the United Kingdom (overseas postage is wicked-expensive), but give us an email and we will try to sort something out.